Obituaries

Randolph Walter
B: 1946-08-30
D: 2019-10-04
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Walter, Randolph
Nancy Gilmore
B: 1939-12-29
D: 2019-10-03
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Gilmore, Nancy
Mikayla Martin
B: 1997-01-08
D: 2019-10-01
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Martin, Mikayla
Karen Larcombe
B: 1973-08-26
D: 2019-09-25
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Larcombe, Karen
Tyrone Johnston
B: 1942-01-06
D: 2019-09-24
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Johnston, Tyrone
Ruth Wilson
B: 1926-11-23
D: 2019-09-23
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Wilson, Ruth
Judy Bourhis
D: 2019-09-22
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Bourhis, Judy
Margaret Casey
B: 1963-10-04
D: 2019-09-22
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Casey, Margaret
Diane Gamba
B: 1954-02-16
D: 2019-09-13
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Gamba, Diane
Leslie Harrop
B: 1943-10-31
D: 2019-09-12
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Harrop, Leslie
Arnold Grimm
B: 1968-08-01
D: 2019-09-10
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Grimm, Arnold
Marilyn Kiauka
B: 1949-11-09
D: 2019-09-10
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Kiauka, Marilyn
Dorene Currie
B: 1924-06-23
D: 2019-08-30
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Currie, Dorene
William McNeney
B: 1940-07-22
D: 2019-08-26
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McNeney, William
James (Jim) Mogul Monahan
B: 1944-06-13
D: 2019-08-26
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Monahan, James (Jim) Mogul
James Colson
B: 1951-08-22
D: 2019-08-19
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Colson, James
Michael Gillespie
B: 1944-07-21
D: 2019-08-17
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Gillespie, Michael
Laurence Allan
B: 1929-11-08
D: 2019-08-17
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Allan, Laurence
Ross Dinwoodie
B: 1931-05-25
D: 2019-07-29
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Dinwoodie, Ross
Joseph Gravkin
B: 1927-03-04
D: 2019-07-28
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Gravkin, Joseph
Howard Gillies
B: 1957-06-26
D: 2019-07-23
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Gillies, Howard

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How to Tell Family Members

 

 

What to Say:

When the death is unexpected, the news will surely have been a shock to you so you need to expect that reaction in those you tell. Even when the death is expected, as in a long illness, or when a loved one is in hospice care, the news may be difficult to deliver.

 

 

 

What Do You Want this Experience to be Like for Your Family?

Think about it. This will be a time in their life they will always remember. Just how do you want them to look back on it?

We're confident you'd say you want them to remember it as a time of loving compassion; where the news of their loved one's death was delivered with kindness and understanding. That takes forethought. One aspect of thinking ahead includes avoiding the internet channels of communication during the first hours after a loved one dies.

You want to be very careful that this information is not broadcasted through Facebook or Twitter (or any other social media site), or via instant messaging, before you've had the opportunity to connect with family members personally.

Stop, Think.....and then Speak.

You know your family members, and chances are you can predict how each one of them needs to be cared for during this difficult time. Our best advice is that you walk into this situation with your "eyes wide open", and set the stage accordingly.

Should you call them in the middle of the night, or while they are at work, or school?

Only you know the answer. Family members deserve your clearest thinking on the matter of when you tell the news.

Then, you need to think about how you will break the news.It's preferable to deliver such news in person, but if that's not possible, a phone call will have to do. In either case, we have some valuable suggestions:

  • Choose your words carefully. You know the right words for the person you're speaking to hear. If using a phrase like "passed on", "passed away", or "gone to a better place" makes sense, then use it. If you think they would rather hear their loved one has died, then that word is appropriate.

 

  • Give them as many of the details involved in the death as you feel they need to hear right now.

 

  • When you're done, ask them if there's anything they would like know, and if there is, answer their questions as best you can.

 

  • Let them know they can continue to ask questions during the days ahead, and that they can openly express any emotions they are feeling now and in the future such as fear, guilt, sadness depression, or anger.

 


 

After the call is made, or the news shared in person, keep the lines of communication open. In the days to come, help your family members (to the best of your ability, considering your own grief) work through these emotions by encouraging them and reassuring them. Naturally, family members should support one another; so don't neglect to turn them for support as well.

Death, no matter the circumstances, is hard for us to handle. Keep in mind that the best thing you can do for anyone when informing them of a death is to deliver the news thoughtfully. Let them know that you are there for them and that you love them. That too is an essential truth they need to know.

 

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